I can't remember what year we met, I would guess around 1992 or so. I was living in Oklahoma City and went to Scarborough Faire in Waxahachie, Texas with some friends of mine. My friends were meeting up with some of their friends who they knew via a Saint Seiya apa. (Does anyone even do apas anymore or know what they are?)
At any rate, my friends finally met up with their friends and then along came this guy whom they introduced as their friend Talin. I said "hi." He said "hi" and that was it. Neither one of us really noticed the other.
However, our respective social circles began to converge like colliding galaxies, merging into a bi-state group of musicians and artists. They attended cons in OKC and since I too was attending those cons, "Talin" and I got to hang out a little bit more. Sadly, he was dating someone else at the time, but it didn't stop me from getting a huge-ass crush on him. At the end of the weekend of SoonerCon 199X, we all ended up at a Denny's and I shamelessly saved the chair next to me for Tim. (His girlfriend wasn't there that weekend. WOOT!) Before they all headed off to Texas, he put his arms around me and I thought he was going to kiss me but instead he hugged me, lifting me off my feet. But no kiss. That was that.
It was during a visit to Texas, (the friends of friends' house) that we admitted we liked each other more than a bit. He was still with his girlfriend so nothing sexy happened, but it was nice to know he liked me too. I didn't pursue the matter and didn't expect anything to come of it.
But one day, I don't even recall when, I received a letter from him, telling me he loved me, that his now EX-girlfriend had been lying to him and left him for a married guy (hmmm), and that he'd like to get to know me better. This was pre-email, so I have a HUGE folder full of all of the love letters, poems, songs, drawings etc that followed over the next two years. Some of them still have the scented oils emenating from the thick, handmade paper. And wow, they still make me blush and grin like a fool. His poems especially are so amazing. At least to a love-sick girl. lol
We were engaged for about 2 years before we finally got married on Nov 8, 1997. There was no honeymoon; we were too poor, and our first house was practically falling inward on itself. And those first years were really rough, financially and emotionally. There were more than a few times when it looked like we might call it quits, but we stuck it out. To quote Bonnie Tyler:
"There were times when we fought like tigers,
There were times we were damn good liars."
We both had a lot of maturing to do, me moreso than him, I admit. We wore the jagged edges off of each other until the pieces began to fit. Nine years later, we are still individuals, not two halves of anything, but we fit together comfortably and I think that's the secret to happiness in a relationship. You have to be a complete person-- no one else is going to complete you. All you can hope to do is find that person who makes you a better human being, who helps you grow and who believes in you.
Anyway, it's better now than it has ever been. Thank you, Schmoopie, for sticking with me, for loving me unconditionally, and for making me so happy. You are my best friend.
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